FREE online courses on Creating Confidence - Conversation
Skills - Pack in human interest
Ask yourself
all possible questions. You are sure to remember your own observations, desires
and experiences while speaking. You could relate your own struggles, defeats,
hopes and triumphs.
It is important to give a real life image to
our talk. The truthful, inside story of anyone's life, if told modestly and
without offending egotism -- is the most entertaining.
There is
something else besides mere words, which matters in a talk. It is the flavor
with which you express yourself. It is not so much what you say, as how you say
it.
Do not talk as if delivering a soliloquy, with
no sense of communication, no give and take between yourself and the audience.
This attitude will kill the conversation.
Do not imitate
others. Try to speak spontaneously and create your own style.
Attract attention by:
·
Stress on the important words in a sentence and
subordinate the unimportant ones.
·
The pitch of your voice should flow up and down the
scale from high to low and back again.
·
Pause before and after your important ideas.
·
Ask questions between – “You ask how do I know this?
I'll tell you.” Or “How do you feel about this?”
·
Put your heart into your talk, bringing out your true
emotions and sincerity.
Tax your memory
You can always tax your memory
for a good impact during a conversation. “The average man,” says psychologist,
Prof. Carl Seashore, “does not use above ten percent of his actual inherited
capacity for memory. He wastes the ninety percent by violating the natural laws
of remembering.” There are three of these natural laws.
1.
Impression
2.
Repetition
3.
Association
To achieve this you must:
1.
Concentrate
2.
Observe closely
3.
Read aloud
4.
Get an eye impression
5.
Act on the power of repetition
6.
Associate it with facts
7.
To remember names, connect the name with the face.
8.
To remember dates, associate them with prominent dates already
in mind.
