All that we find disagreeable in others has got a lesson for us - it often mirrors our own hidden shortcomings and weaknesses, so that we can start seeing the same within. Identifying a weakness within us is the first step towards getting rid of it.

 

Bring out the best in yourself 

  • Positive thoughts, in the first stage, make you commit to all that is required to bring about the best in you and make you honor that commitment. They make you consider all the causes for a possible failure so that you can incorporate the necessary precautions in your planning.
     
  • In the second stage, they instill in you a positive image about yourself.
     
  • Finally in the third stage, they make you perform exactly in accordance with how you perceive yourself to be.

 

Recognize the positive 

  • See the positive hidden in every negative experience. For example, if your boss finds small mistakes in your work you may take this to be frustrating. However, ask yourself, “What is the positive thing hidden in this seemingly negative happening? In what way will I benefit from it?”
     
  • Situations are never bad; the way we interpret them often is. It is only when we fail to see what is positive in any situation because of our self-imposed limitations on our perception that we label certain experiences as bad or negative.

 

Do not search for scapegoats 

  • Take full responsibility of whatever you go through in life.
     
  • The one who appears to have harmed you is only acting out his or her role.
     
  • Blaming others is like using crutches in spite of your healthy legs.
     
  • Injustice exists only in our mind - not anywhere else.